Basic HD

June 14, 2010

Regardless of whether you are just beginning a new relationship or nurturing a life long friendship, there are five basic actions you can do to continue moving the relationship forward.  Think of these as the local channels.  No matter which cable package you subscribe to, they are always included. 

1.  SMILE!
Mother Theresa once said, “We will never know all the good that a simple smile can do.”  Often we wear the stress of everyday life on our face.  Without realizing it we walk around with a permanent scowl on a stone face (count me guilty).  A smile is the easiest way to become approachable and build relationships.

2.  Remember your manners.
In a culture prone to giving minimum effort while expecting maximum results, manners seem to have been lost.  Most people remember to say “please” and “thank you”, but forget to hold the door open or rush into the elevator before the current passengers have exited.  Everyday courtesies go a long way in forming others opinions of you.  Negative opinions equal negative relationships.

3.  Celebrate milestones.
In the workplace, it is easy to feel like just a number.  Day in and day out it’s the same old grind where identity is lost in the big picture.  Celebrating milestones, like birthdays or anniversaries for example, put the focus on the individual.  The focus may be a brief acknowledgment or a party with cake, but the effect can propel a relationship forward.

4.  Communicate
For an HR professional, managers seeking advice on problems with employees, is a daily occurrence.  When asked if they have spoken to the employee, we are often met with blank stares.  You can not have a relationship with someone who you do not communicate with.  It is amazing what happens when we open our mouths and talk to each other.

5.  Listen
One of the most dynamic leaders I ever worked for went into every meeting with the word LISTEN written in large print at the top of her notebook.  When I asked her why, she explained that listening was a weakness for her and had cost her important relationships.  Listening is often more engaging than speaking.

These 5 actions are very basic and have been explored over and over.  For some reason however, they are often overlooked when developing a base for strong relationships. 

On the one week anniversary of this blog, please listen to me while I communicate my sincerest appreciation to my reading audience.  Thank you. ::smile::

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2 Responses to “Basic HD”

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  2. […] communication is a key component to effective workplace relationships.  I’ve talked about it here, here and here.  Nothing derails open and honest communication faster than passive aggressive […]

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